I am a natural wine distributor in the states and you put so much of my thoughts on the page here. It has been so heartbreaking to feel like I was falling out of love with wine but this gives me the hope that it was just the gasbag assholes I’m sick of. I, too have ADHD and social media and the need to *be out* to be at all the cool bars and restaurants has been so overwhelming. Mostly, I have just wanted to curl up and not leave the house for a year. Thanks so much for this piece. I am going to subscribe but more importantly I am going to make some big changes in how I spend my energy and time this year.
If you can spend time with actual vignerons, it does help. I think there are a lot of benefits to ADHD like heightened empathy (which is why we probably enjoy natural wine, the ethos appeals to us) and ability to multitask but can also be a nightmare. By the way microdosing has done wonders for me. Happy New Year and thank you for reading!!
I feel like the odd one out possibly, being male (is that a silly comment???) however I’ve enjoyed your writing for some time so what does it matter? Re social media: I too feel like I’m trapped in it. It’s in some ways a necessary evil as it is a good promoter of our two wine related businesses (grape growing/making natural wine and natural wine bar/shop) but that’s really just Insta. I find myself getting angry in Facebook as there are so many awful people expressing their foul opinions and I find myself getting drawn into arguments I should probably avoid. The current awful Middle East war is a case in point. I’ve managed to withdraw from the TV and I think Facebook cessation, even if only for a trial period, will be my new years project. I have a pile of books I’d like to get through and several on line wine/food/architecture subscriptions I’m keen to read more regularly but need a clear head to do it.
I have actually noticed loads of people have left socials since the war started. It was definitely the final straw for me. Trauma porn and virtue signalling combined with people´s Facebook PhDs in International Relations was just it for me. I hope you get to those books!
Kudos on learning the only social media lesson which is to leave social media.
Wishing the best for you in 2024. Thinking of you and hoping for peace and tranquility for you and the world
I am a natural wine distributor in the states and you put so much of my thoughts on the page here. It has been so heartbreaking to feel like I was falling out of love with wine but this gives me the hope that it was just the gasbag assholes I’m sick of. I, too have ADHD and social media and the need to *be out* to be at all the cool bars and restaurants has been so overwhelming. Mostly, I have just wanted to curl up and not leave the house for a year. Thanks so much for this piece. I am going to subscribe but more importantly I am going to make some big changes in how I spend my energy and time this year.
If you can spend time with actual vignerons, it does help. I think there are a lot of benefits to ADHD like heightened empathy (which is why we probably enjoy natural wine, the ethos appeals to us) and ability to multitask but can also be a nightmare. By the way microdosing has done wonders for me. Happy New Year and thank you for reading!!
Interesting read. So much to unpack. I need to think further about this (but basically YES. TOTALLY).
Thanks for reading and I hope to see you soon. I hope I have never been a gasbag.
YOU COULD NEVER BE ONE!
Very very well written
I feel like the odd one out possibly, being male (is that a silly comment???) however I’ve enjoyed your writing for some time so what does it matter? Re social media: I too feel like I’m trapped in it. It’s in some ways a necessary evil as it is a good promoter of our two wine related businesses (grape growing/making natural wine and natural wine bar/shop) but that’s really just Insta. I find myself getting angry in Facebook as there are so many awful people expressing their foul opinions and I find myself getting drawn into arguments I should probably avoid. The current awful Middle East war is a case in point. I’ve managed to withdraw from the TV and I think Facebook cessation, even if only for a trial period, will be my new years project. I have a pile of books I’d like to get through and several on line wine/food/architecture subscriptions I’m keen to read more regularly but need a clear head to do it.
I have actually noticed loads of people have left socials since the war started. It was definitely the final straw for me. Trauma porn and virtue signalling combined with people´s Facebook PhDs in International Relations was just it for me. I hope you get to those books!
So on point, all of this.
The Friendship piece you linked to spoke to me at so many freaking levels. Incanny. Or maybe not.
Yeah, for me the same.